Marriage and Relationship Counselling
Marital Discord-Certain Astrological Notes
My client was quite reserved and difficult to deal with. Usually, it is difficult for anyone to open up especially when there is this problem involving family matters which are personal and private. The tendency is to assign a rather fictitious value to the aspect gnawing the person from inside-an utter failure and inability to deal with on his own! This is in fact a fallacy. If a relationship is not pleasant or smooth, it has nothing to do with efficiency or capabilities as such. What is usually underlying the whole issue is a natural instinct and an attitudinal overture. These do not develop all of a sudden. They have been there but have not surfaced since that crucible known as a marital relationship was yet to be served wherein these are churned and experimented with…
‘She does not allow me to say anything. Whatever I say is rejected as useless and something bearing out of my useless background’, he said.
‘What was your general response?’
‘I get irritated and owing to that, I shout and try to close the argument.’
‘What would she do?’
‘She escalates, says all silly things and throws whatever is possible. We do have some broken furniture-new items purchased recently lying there for scrap sales.’
‘How do you enter into these arguments? I mean, you sit down for a discussion which turns into an argument or you move around in a cinematic manner?’
‘Usually I would be with my laptop and I have to logout at a point when I feel that this one would also go to dogs…’
‘What does she do after you have shut the laptop?’
‘She would wait for a while and take off from a different point.’
‘Which means that she has forced you to pay proper attention which she is perhaps not getting.’
He thought for a while.
‘That’s OK. I do give her attention when I have the time but…’
I held a hand out.
‘She wants attention on demand which you do not supply…I know it is not possible every time but have you tried to create the conditions?’
‘The trouble is that this is only a one-way traffic. There is absolutely no concern for my irritabilities. If abrasiveness is the sum and substance of the whole idea, there is not much I can do’
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Well! The lords of the ascendants (Lagnaas) in the horoscopes can be friends, Kuja Dosham may be absent, there is perhaps no Dasa Sandhi either or no Rajju (both constellations not belonging to the same planetary family). Yet, there can be trouble to married lives. The reason is simple. A lot can be seen from the interplay between the ownership of the fifth house from Lagna, his disposition and the planet(s) positioned in the fifth house alongside the aspects to these very parameters.
Often, if the fifth house has either Saturn or Raahu or both, the individual might have rather fixed views which may not change in a lifetime! Further, Raahu gives the individual an avoidable haste and hurry which forces the words of the mouth and seems to be acting more in a preventive manner. Little do they realize that the attitude is self-destructive. Even if they do, it is too late and the damage is done. Both partners need adequate counselling in this regard. The following music helps…
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